New blog, Day 2.
My girls are running around the hood slanging rocks (girl scout cookies – hit my pager if you need a lil sumn sumn). Gives me time to drop more wisdom for Wannabe Ballers.
I’ve got a couple exec coaching sessions coming up. Some media company sales dudes in LA and some Silicon Valley video game start-up geeks. Stoked!
The sales guys signed up for the Healthy Masculinity for Corporate Purposes. We’ll have to work cigars into that one. The geeks get the “Soul of the Billion Dollar Deal” package. Will be a few ladies there. So that one will be smoke free.
Both will hit the philosophy stuff. I’ll get to that in a few posts. Here’s a sneak preview: Stoicism, Abundance Frame, Outcome Independence, Positive Energy Flow, Know Thyself. The dudes get some Nice Guy versus Good Guy thrown in, plus Its OK to Be A Man No Matter What HR and the 3rd Wave Feminists Say. Of course we’ll respect all boundaries on that latter point.
Anyway, I say all the above to give some context for this new blog. All my lovely, faithful readers from the original Offense Wins Championships have heard a lot of this “man up for awesomeness” nonsense before. Here, I’ve re-skinned for my exec coaching purposes. To the existing reflections on masculinity and philosophy, I’ll be adding some “Corporate How-to,” while dropping nearly all the male/female relationship thoughts. So more emphasis on Framing, Frame Control, Social Dynamics for Bizness, Status and Attraction (which my astute readers will know overlaps quite a bit), Effective Pitching, Body Language, Game within the Game, Productivity vs Impact, Meeting the Quarter from the Hot Tub, Vegas for Successful Objective Achieving…
Enough with the preview reel, the show must go on:
How I Learned to Love My Inner Psychopath
Don’t be scared by that psychopath reference. The surgeon who rebuilt your ACL is probably a psychopath. Your CEO is probably a psychopath. Saint Paul, Abe Lincoln, FDR, and Patton were probably all psychopaths. The Wannabe Baller who makes the leap, does so, by tapping in to his inner psychopath…exercising cold judgement, developing social potency, fearlessness, stress immunity, impulsive non-conformity, and even a bit of coldheartedness and Machiavellian Egocentricity while avoiding the Hannibal Lector weakness for, well, nevermind, you get the idea.
How I Learned to Love My Masculinity
Now the Noobs are really freaked out. HR does not permit discussions about gender. But you are man. You have 17x the amount of Testosterone as a woman. Evolutionary Psychology hypothesizes that most great feats of humanity were/are/will be driven by man’s hard-wired survival/reproduction instinct. So there must be something important about manliness, and progress, and civilization (which is different than culture). Healthy masculinity builds and strengthens. Healthy masculinity embraces conflict and challenge. Get some.
How I Learned to Love My Inner Philosopher
You don’t know what you don’t know. Somebody needs to tell you. Wisdom does not chase you down the street, begging you to listen. In fact, the opposite, nobody wants to help anybody. People are locked in their miserable, average little lives. They lack the will to succeed and they sure hate to see other people succeed. Plus, orthodoxy, convention, and the institutionalized status quo are threatened by a untamed free thinkers. So triteness and cheap stimulation are mass produced to distract and tame. But the raw truth about you, life, and the world is out there. The faker our reality gets, the hungrier we are getting for the real. Hence goofy movies and books like The Life of Pi. Ancient and not-so-ancient thinkers offer rich sources of wisdom that can strengthen our vitality and energy. Or figure out how to thwart convention on our way to the top.